I used to wonder where the point of getting good to great would happen.
I mean, how do you know when you’re getting really really good at what you’re doing?
Simple. You’ll find people, a steadily growing number of them actually, will want to meet you. Not because you’re known or something, and yeah, that happens to happen anyway, but because what you do is getting the results people want.
So, we are seeing a lot of tense hesitation with women when they transition between where they are, to where they need to be. The Real versus the Ideal states.
We find that all this is to a very large extent, a state of mind.
Through our interviews, discussions, coaching and events, more and more we are realizing women do not take the step into the unknown, simply because it’s the unknown.
Sure, you’re probably thinking how is this different from the way men think, correct?
Correct. To look at it from the surface it is human nature to resist change and resist it we will. Excuses, delays, avoidance and denial flood our minds and stop us dead in our tracks, sometimes self-indulgence in opting to be mentally paralyzed too.
But, studies have shown that when it comes t0 us women, these challenges tend to take on a slightly if not grossly skewed shape. We have a gender based lens that enables us to perceive events that lead us to go into self- deprecation. We bring ourselves down, and filter situations from this world view.
In due course this takes us into a loop which stops us from progressing to getting to that ‘ really really good space’ aka, becoming experts at what we do.
Some of of the basics that can incrementally lead to disengaging this thought process are:
- Developing a clear Leadership Vision
- Self- Confidence Building
- Understanding what Success Means to us
- Influencing and negotiating
We invite yoou to take notice of the fact that core skills around what you do have consciously not been mentioned here, as we consider that a given for success.
Over the course of the next few weeks, we at #VibhaWomen plan on addressing these facets via our workshops that will work in tandem with more sharing of thoughts and experiences that you can read here as well.
Join us either at our workshops or read more about this here shortly.
We also invite you to share your own thoughts around this.
More to follow, see ya soon.
The author is an Educationist, Social Entrepreneur and Coach
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