What’s your Blueprint for 2018?

Wish you all a very Happy New Year 2018! On this occasion, I desire, that you achieve all your goals this year. This is my first post of the year, and I wanted to start with a wish that has the potential to come true, when YOU put your thoughts into it and pursue it wholeheartedly, giving your 100%.

So, how did you celebrate the New Year? Was it by going to a party and dancing away to glory? Or you stayed back home, called a few friends, and rejoiced their company? Or you were out of town holidaying, and rang in the New Year in your favorite destination, in the presence of your friends and/or family? Or you feel, the hoopla around New Year’s celebration is too overrated, it just fizzes away too quickly? So you don’t see it as a special time and refrain from celebrating it.

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I believe the New Year is the pretext to start afresh. It is the reason to look at things from a different perspective, a time to reconcile with the past and look forward to the future. I spend the last day of the fading year and the first day of the new year in solitude. This is the time I invest in introspection. I look back at the year which went by, the decisions I had made, what went right and bask in the glory of my achievements. I also look at what went wrong, analyze those mistakes, learn from them, and work on what I can do better next time. It is the time I give to myself to chalk out how I want my coming year to be. Work out what I want to achieve in the new year and create my BLUEPRINT for the new year.

I also spend some time with my personal coaching clients around this time. I was having one such deep conversation with a client a couple of days before the New Year’s Eve. I asked him normally, So how was your 2017? To which he answered IT WAS TERRIBLE! Immediately, I saw trouble, so I probed further…

What followed was a 2 hour long mind-boggling conversation where we discussed in detail why he felt like this. I was intrigued by the fact that he summed up the entire year with just one sentence, the year was terrible! After our discussion, he came to a conclusion that the year was not completely terrible after all. It was more of a roller-coaster ride.

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On the positive side, he had traveled to places he thought he would never travel, started new investments, enhanced his bond with his family, learned new skills, accomplished so much in the professional font, got a promotion, completed his travel goals in 2017.

On the hindsight, he lost his father to heart attack, he lost some money in the new investments he had bet on, he didn’t take care of his health, he felt he didn’t spend enough time with his family and he could’ve done better as an individual in 2017.

When I asked him, “tell me 10 awesome things and 10 really bad things that happened to you in 2017”, he took much longer to complete the list for 10 bad things against the list for good things! How fascinating is that?

This reinforced that as human beings we love to amplify our sufferings and underplay our achievements. We love to believe that we are struck by misfortune, and look for empathy from others to feel better. The problem is, most often we stay in the comfort of our uncomfortable pain, just because we get empathy from others. It’s like that drug which makes us feel great for a while, then throws us back to that zone again! We just refuse to come out of it and the worst part is that we deny the fact that we like to stay in that zone!

When I asked him, “have you created your Blueprint for 2018?” He asked “what is that? No, I have not. I have nothing specific to achieve this year!” Ta da da… there you go, if you have nothing awesome to look forward, how will you shrug off yourself from that sympathy zone to an action zone? Fortunately, he saw the problem and took step to fix it. By 5th Jan he shared his Blueprint with me. I must admit, he has worked on himself and come up with some brilliant things that he wants to do this year. Which will for sure transform him to be a much better version of him.

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If you are curious, what is this Blueprint, and how does this work; then let me explain this to you. Human beings achieve better when they have their eyes set on clearly defined goals; and they chalk out action plan to achieve these goals systematically and repeatedly. That’s what is a blueprint. Your blueprint is like the direction you follow to achieve your goals. It’s like the Google maps for your destination. Like Google maps, your blueprint helps you choose the quickest, most effective and least traffic (read obstacles) prone path for you.

Have you created your Blueprint for 2018? If yes, sending you more power to achieve them! If not, I would love to help you create it. All you have to do is register for Connect To Success Preview on 21st Jan. Find below the registration details.

https://www.facebook.com/events/320460045114443/

Would you take your life to the next level this year?

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PS: This post was first published on https://srijatablog.wordpress.com/

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You know that feeling of uneasiness you get when you try something new, something different, something that you’ve never done before – that will lead you onward towards your goals ?

That fear ?
It’s OK to be scared and it’s OK to recognize that that feeling has been stopping you all this while.
This is our comfort zone.
It is the space we prefer taking because it reminds of of being safe and at ease.
Take time to understand that EVERYTIME you reach out to do something like this, you will feel this way. You will want to cower down and curl up and shy away from anything that causes disturbance to that comfort zone you live in.
But to really really get to that goal ?
That is, at some point, going to require YOUR conscious effort.
It is going to ask you to STEP UP.
To do things you have NEVER EVER done before.
To shed that shell and take that step to do what is burning deep inside of you.
It is scary. And those fear are honestly never going to go away.
Because once you have conquered it – you have the next level of fear and comfort- zone- breaking to breach.
So don’t you think it’s time to get comfortable with your fears ?
Even in the Gita, it is said to get LOST in the process. And that the effort is more important than the goal itself. leave it
This way, when we get lost it in it, we revel in the fact that we took that step.
This also helps bring down the stress we allow to build inside of us , that we use to beat ourselves down, when we haven’t yet reached our goal.
It’s OK.
It’s OK to not YET reach it.
And it’s OK to recognize that. Take all the time you need to do so
And then you keep going. And revel in the process, acknowledge the fears. And acknowledge your action DESPITE your fears.

Have an ambitious, fear- filling, process – pleasing 2017 people.
Loads of Love   

 

The author is an Executive Coach & Social Entrepreneur

Twitter: CarolineVibha

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Business Women’s Day : Celebrating You, dear Ladies!

I think it makes sense to have a day when women the world over can take stock our contribution towards the world of  business and the growing strength of women in numbers.

You don’t have to be an entrepreneur to celebrate this day. Leadership in any sphere of business – yours or an organization entitles you to this day!

There have been 2 women whom I would like to bring to mind while I reflect on the great things we as women have and how we contribute to the larger world of business.

These women are #SherylSandberg and #KiranMazumdarShaw

#LeanIn awakened something in me. It made me realize things I already knew sub-consciously but spoke to me about quite explicitly. Some were powerfully engaging, others just powerful. I’ve watched a few of Sheryl’s videos too. Through her communication everything seems to connect to an enduring thread of #grit, #persistence and #authenticity.

Sheryl Sandberg, chief operating officer of Facebook Inc., listens during the e-G8 Internet Forum in Paris, France, on Tuesday, May 24, 2011. The Internet needs government involvement to reach its full potential of linking people and boosting economic growth, French President Nicolas Sarkozy said. Photographer: Antoine Antoniol/Bloomberg via Getty Images

Sheryl Sandberg, chief operating officer of Facebook Inc., listens during the e-G8 Internet Forum in Paris, France, on Tuesday, May 24, 2011. The Internet needs government involvement to reach its full potential of linking people and boosting economic growth, French President Nicolas Sarkozy said. Photographer: Antoine Antoniol/Bloomberg via Getty Images

I’ve had my awakening quite early on myself. Through times when I fell and lost I seem to have learned the most. It’s helped me become more focused on the things I want and also on the things I don’t want.

I have to say that with everything Sheryl has been through recently, her determination and will to keep moving forward is commendable.  She chose to share her world, to the world. it takes a lot to open yourself to the world, share your story. The great part is,it’s a give-and-take – the moment you open yourselfup – the world comes rushing!

I want to also talk about another role model, #KiranMazumdarShaw. You know, reading about someone’s story to us, becomes just that – a story. but if you really sit to think about the way someone like Kiran went through her start. It was a gradual steady progression that led to where she is today. And from the looks of it, there’s no stopping this woman.

She’s had to take a lot of ‘NOs’ in her life before things 10biocon1

began to turn around. To me, that has to have a greater ‘yes’ somewhere deep inside that keeps you going in the face of rejection and doubt.

We all struggle. At times we also question our choices, but I think having this unquestionable faith in your vision and yourself is what encourages continuity. The great thing is persistence in turn gives you the growing strength you need to carry on.

Yes, it’s tough. yes, there will be times you will want to throw in the towel and call it a day. But hang in there. The times that are hardest are the ones where your best ideas and growth will emerge. Keep your eyes open and your ears to the ground.

Happy ‘Business Women’s Day’ Ladies!

The author, Caroline Fernandes is a social entrepreneur and learner Caroline Fernandes

You can connect with her on twitter: @CarolineVibha