Good day to you ! Well good day to you too, but who are you ?

 

It’s New-ness , open up Ego! She’s ready!

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Ego: Noo she’s not!!
She *needs* me. I’m her best friend.
I’m here to *protect* her and keep her *safe*.

New-ness: But if she’s doing well AND can embrace something that challenges her mind and body

Ego : Oh!! Go away !

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Hello hello!

Ego: Who’s there ?

It’s Growth

Ego: Godddd, you again!!

Haven’t I told you She is fine in the zone I have created for her!

Why on earth would she need you ?!!

Growth: So that she might experience a sense of purpose and fulfillment.

Ego : Bah!! She’s ok with my stickiness, my neediness, the distractions that I throw at her.

She latches onto her story, and that’s what keeps me thriving – the drama, the emotions

Go away!

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Hola!

Ego : Who’s there ?!

It’s me – Presence

Ego: You are funny. I am way too important a presence in her life.

I have her in the palm of my hand.

I stress her out about the future, which isn’t really there.

I trigger memories, so that she is distracted with the drama

Why would she need you ?

Presence : Because whenever I push her to question you

And whenever I encourage her to throw light on you

And whenever I take the form of Silence

You cease to exist

The author is an Executive Coach and Mindfulness practitioner

@Carolinevibha

 

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I continue to explore and have the willingness to experiment with the idea of collaboration.

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You talk to people from everywhere.
Age
Gender
Experience
Expertise

And a few patterns emerge in my mind on this thought

Collaboration is a mindset

You could speak to someone practicing the same work, and still have a huge amount of scope to plug in and join hands.

Collaboration is hugely undiscovered tool.

There’s scope for Collaboration to create shifts in
How we curate conversations
Innovation
Accessing information
Learning
Creation of value for causes, businesses and communities at large

This tool will require a mind shift though

The ‘And’ mentality

What else is possible beyond what I know
And what we know
And what they know

And technology is the most amazing approach to do this

You have conversations seamlessly
You explore the layers and peel away to also get to the core

To me
How we view ourselves
And how we view one another are very powerful tools to build and strengthen Collaboration
And what comes out of Collaboration

How willing are we to embrace Collaboration
How is collaboration beneficial

How will this tool be even more valuable with technology changing, evolving, integrating

We are better together

 

#iamvibha #womeninleadership

The author is an Executive Coach and Mindful practitioner

@Carolinevibha

Many times I’ve wanted to hurt the people that hurt me.

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As a child
As a teen ager
As an adult
As a woman

I’ve wanted to do to them, exactly what they did to me.

To make them experience the pain that they caused me.

It burned me.
It killed me inside.

My Personal Work over the last few years has been anything short of a Storm.

Because I had to come undone.

My kriya broke me. The Ego of me.

I realized how much of the story I was harboring in my body.
Trapped.
As pain, confusion, haze.

Then I realized that the only one suffering was myself.
Not them.

It was a memory.
It is a memory.

So I let those memories go.

I realized that I am not my body
And I am bit my mind.

I am much much MUCH more.

My healing I owe to those a.d many more life experiences and people.

I am actually thankful for it all.

Because I am a part of the Divine.
And everything is happening.

Let it happen.

Observe.

Don’t get sucked in.

You are not it.

You are much more

Let go
Let go of all your worries
Let go of it all

 

The author is am Executive Coach and mindfulness practitioner

@CarolineVibha

I stopped apologizing for who I am.

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I began turning inwards a few years ago after phases of falling, stumbling and struggling for acceptance.

Until I realized I was looking for acceptance in all the wrong places, with all the wrong people and sub-consciously picking these to further feed those fears of being alone.

I picked myself up
I dusted myself off
I chose to ignore the noise, labelling, and questions like –
what phase are you at
Why are you doing this
What will it give
Are you mad
What will people think
What will people say

Instead I began building a tower of questions that I continue to ask myself till date
Who am I
What values can I choose to internalize
Why am I doing this
What will it give me
Who are the people I choose to associate myself with
And why
What can I do to grow and bloom into the most authentic version of Self

I declutter
I decline
I say no
I reflect
I dig
I breathe
I feed my soul
I stay away from noise
I avoid stuff that does not align with my core

I continue to be watchful of alignment and intention
Alignment and intention
Alignment and intention.

Period.

What values do you use to live out your truth ?
What in your life is in alignment?
What isn’t ?

 

#iamvibha #vibhawomen #womeninleaddership

The author is a leadership coach and Mindfulness Practitioner @Carolinevibha

Many times we find it hard to Appreciate.

While growing up I recall feeling like – there’s not a bone in my body that really truly feels like I can appreciate anything ?
I would feel fake.

Anyone who has read #Sherylsandberg ‘Lean in’, will probably also have context as to the feeling that many experience when it comes to feeling like a fako.

And appreciation has a very different energy compared to pride.
Pride is a layer that falls off and has ego written all over it.
It is weak and resltess.
It says- ‘Look at me, how great I am’sort of vibes.
This vibe is tricky, because it fills us with a blind-ness towards our real-ness, our humane-ness, our vulnerability. It also stops us from anticipating what is coming, because we are too busy flying without consciously staying grounded.

Appreciation has an element of Honor.
Of honoring the goodness in yourself, the god-given talents you have received in this lifetime to do what you gotta do.
To deeply honor the god-given talent in others too.

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Which means appreciation also has elements of Empathy.

When we can step out of our own identities to recognize the Grace that exists in our fellow beings – human and animal.
alike.

And why is Appreciation necessary ?
Who gives a rats-a$$ about appreciation ?

Well,
Think about your gran, your favorite teacher or manager.
You know, the one who loved you regardless of how naughty or bad you were.
The one who saw through your noise, and loved you as a whole.
The one who felt so amazing to be around.

I am inviting you today to take the time to meaningfully:
Appreciate something you love about yourself.
Appreciate something in someone close to you.
Appreciate something in someone you aren’t really getting along with.

Even if it sounds or feels fake at first, continue to practice Appreciation.
Imagine Appreciation filling your whole body while you think it, feel it and say it.

The highest in me appreciates the highest in you.

The author is a Leadership Coach & Mindfulness Practitioner @Carolinevibha

I AM : The LEAP Edition 10

I Am : The LEAP – ( Lead, Engage, Act, Pay it forward ) Edition – 10
A Project launched by Vibha Women to give women the platform to speak and share.
There is a lot that our members are learning in our circles of conversations – online & offline, and we thought it might be great to open up the conversation on
– Work
– The Journey
– Take-aways

Check out one of our members, Noreen Ahmed as she shares #herstory today!

 

#iamvibha #vibhawomen #womeninleadership #herstory

On Decisions — The Good & Bad Ones And Honoring On Avoiding The Bad Ones!

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Everything in our lives depend on the decisions we take! We all are at the driving seats of our own lives and the decisions are those due to which we set our sights on the routes. After they have taken and executed, we realize they’re successful or failures. We, most often get the credit from the world for the decisions which turn out to be successful or give credits to ourselves, as the results have been the successes. And for the decisions which turn out to be the wrong ones, we often repent, have to bear the losses, the hardships, the pains and of course, we don’t get any applauds or credits.

Now lets think of those decisions which we were about to take but have backed out at the last moment and later ‘our not going ahead’ has only proven to be extremely good decision? Not really! Aren’t they also successes? Mustn’t we celebrate them as well?
Today I am going to give two different examples of mine.

Case #1. We decided to invest in a business. We went ahead. The people who started the business were known to us for many years. Well, there was trust. We invested seeing them. After legal and Chartered firm gave a go ahead, we went ahead. Well, the people could not pull it off and more than that the integrity was a major challenge. Still today, we talk about it. It was our own hard earned money and it has affected us, our lifestyle! We had to cut short many things to bear the loss.

Case #2. We decided to invest in a real estate deal. Everything was final. The papers were ready. Our final decision or the last call was a NO for this! We were required to pour in a huge amount of money into it. We didn’t go ahead at the last moment. We took the decision purely based on the gut-feel! Later it was proved to be our good decision and we applauded ourselves for it, nevertheless, celebrated.

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Now, while the first one we call a failure, what do you call the second one?

The FINAL MOMENT when you take the final most call of going ahead or not to go ahead, that builds or breaks. Later it feels like, rest everything is just worth nothing! We must learn to honor the bad decisions we avoided!

The Case #1 is of extremely important to reach to your goal as more often than not, we encounter with Case#1. Without the Case #1, nothing is possible. What is common between these two cases? The learning. Apparently, these two cases were not lucrative financially, but the amount of lessons we have learnt, they’re priceless! And in life, our prime focus is on our learning! Isn’t it so?

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Shatomita is a free spirited, energetic and independent woman who loves to build, be it family, be it business; Right now, she is busy building Brandonomy, a one-stop knowledge sharing platform for the marketers with the vision of paying forward and collaboration. An occasional writer, adventure seeker, risk taker, music maniac, Shatomita believes women empowerment is no more an option or luxury.